Respect and chastity

Whilst the RC church holds strong to the ban on contraception (which I personally don’t entirely agree) I totally agree with

“… Another effect that gives cause for alarm is that a man who grows accustomed to the use of contraceptive methods may forget the reverence due to a woman, and, disregarding her physical and emotional equilibrium, reduced her to being a mere instrument for the satisfaction of his own desires, no longer considering her as his partner whom he should surround with care and affection.”

[“Humanae Vitae: Encyclical of Pope Paul VI on the Regulation of Birth, July 25, 1968]

So many men at Uni boasted about conquests and how many girls they had. Keeping charts and swapping notes. Deliberately encouraging drinking or asserting emotional control to more easily add another to their list. Utterly vile.

I feel sad for the woman who woke up feeling proud to be on a list. I feel sad for women who woke up to the horror of rape.

But it was ok – they had a supply of condoms so no harm done – right?


4 thoughts on “Respect and chastity

  1. Hi, I’m really sorry but I’m having difficult understand your position.

    Are you saying you’re against contraception?

    Are you supporting the above quotation?

    Are you saying that contraception should be ‘banned’ because sometime people make poor choices?

    Please accept my appologise I’m genuinely unsure what you’re saying.

    • Hi Emma, I love this quote for its take on reminding us that woman aren’t just vessels to satisfy men’s sexual desires (and vice verse, same sex etc). I think some women don’t realise they’ve been treated as such until afterwards when they think about what they wanted from sexual intimacy and what they actually got on reflection.

      With regards to contraception, It seemed to make a difference to the guys ‘list hunting’ about whether they did it or not (availability of condoms at clubs/ pubs etc when it was decided that a ‘hunt’ was on). I think the availability of condoms makes it easier for people to have sex without thinking – particularly when intoxicated, and be more vulnerable to people who list hunt.

      If people choose to use contraception – that is their choice and to have choice it should be available. However, my personal thoughts remain that “a man who grows accustomed to the use of contraceptive methods may forget the reverence due to a woman”.

      There is nothing more special than for a couple to save that level of physical and emotional love for that truly special person.

  2. Beautiful post. It is worth reminding all women that we are beings and bodies that desire and deserve.

    A pal has a twenty year old daughter who is dating, as the twenty year wiser females we can see the pits and ruts the younger is falling into, the presidents she is setting and the oh so grating “But I love him …” excuse, sorry, explanation for what ever he does that upsets/ offends/ annoys her.

    I agree, whilst the physical benefit of contraception is one thing, the mental attitude of contraception is another. If a female is on the pill then she must be ‘up fo it’, wrong. If she carries condoms then she must be wanting to, wrong. We have contraception we can have sex, wrong.

    There was an article recently saying ‘Sex is between the ears” .. yes, so therefore Mr Man don’t f-udge with my brain. Shame it takes decades to reach that strength, if ever.

    Sorry, may have strayed off slightly.

    • Yes exactly – it’s that mental attitude – like other things in life?

      Like the way advertising makes a deal sound like a good one enticing us to spend money and telling us they are doing us a favour – yet the only ones to gain are the pockets of the CEOs! People fall for a lot of things just because it’s easier and there is little time between the ‘desire’ thought and the ‘action / deal done’ – deliberate marketing strategy of pressurising consumers etc!

      One little click or ‘sign here’ and you’ve bought something you didn’t really need or want – sex doesn’t have a cooling off period though and you can’t take it back and get a refund if you decide it’s not right for you, unless you consider the terrible trend of virginity surgery 😦 !

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